One of the most common questions I hear during my first call with someone who wants a divorce or heard it from their spouse is, "where do I start?" It's a great question, and when people stop to think that through instead of jumping into a process that is not best suited for them or their family, they almost always have a better outcome and less expensive divorce.
Divorce is often like this - especially for the person not asking for the divorce or separation. Frequently, there's a time gap between the person who asked for the divorce and the spouse receiving the news.
I needed to retreat from the world a little bit and think. While part of me feels like I need to explain that (the quiet time), the more significant part of me says, "no, it's OK."
Divorce can bring out the ugly in people. One of the ways it manifests is spying on the soon-to-be ex, checking up on them in sneaky ways, not respecting or understanding that new boundaries are in play even before you’re officially divorced.