Divorce is often like this - especially for the person not asking for the divorce or separation. Frequently, there's a time gap between the person who asked for the divorce and the spouse receiving the news.
I needed to retreat from the world a little bit and think. While part of me feels like I need to explain that (the quiet time), the more significant part of me says, "no, it's OK."
Divorce can bring out the ugly in people. One of the ways it manifests is spying on the soon-to-be ex, checking up on them in sneaky ways, not respecting or understanding that new boundaries are in play even before you’re officially divorced.